There is plenty of evidence that counselling works, but no agreement on which theoretical approach is the most effective. However, research into counselling highlights the importance of the therapeutic relationship between client and counsellor, the stronger the relationship, the more positive the outcomes.
Some of the qualities I embody as a person-centred counsellor which are fundamental to the therapeutic relationship are, congruence – a genuineness, almost transparent, in that I am not superior to you and you are the expert of your own experiences. The second is empathy, or empathic understanding, the capacity to track and sense accurately your feelings and personal meanings, to perceive the world as you perceive it. Lastly is what we call unconditional positive regard, this translates as acceptance and non-judgement, this is key to the therapeutic relationship. You will feel safe to explore negative feelings and to move into the core of your anxiety. You will also be more likely to face yourself honestly without the ever-present fear of rejection or condemnation.
It is my job to create these conditions of relationship where the growth process can begin. In a sense I am providing different soil and a climate in which you can recover from past trauma and begin to flourish as the unique individual you actually are.
“When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, “Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it’s like to be me”Carl R. Rogers